If you have autoimmune disease or are are on the road to being diagnosed with one, you should consider this! Removing all things toxic, including people.
Everyone who treats autoimmune diseases or has one will say remove stress from your life. If I think about that one… We live in this day and age, where stress is most of our middle names unfortunately.
In reality it is one of those things that those who are suffering want to say, “Are you kidding me? You have no idea what I am going through or or not in my exact situation, how dare you.”
I have to agree with those people that say that. For someone to tell someone else to remove stress from their lives while not experiencing that persons actual situation is off their rocker! Would stress elimination help? Of course. But it isn’t the be all end all. If it was everyone would be living in Belize or some Caribbean island swimming with sharks and turtles, eternally healthy until the ripe old age of a hundred and fifty.
But that’s not how it works in the real world!
But this is part of the society we live in. Everyone knows the answers to everyone else’s life and has all the answers for them within two minutes of knowing them.
It’s completely absurd and highly insulting.
For someone to just tell a person trying to get a diagnosis in order to treat it and regain a functional life while they are struggling just be heard by a competent doctor just remove stress. Especially when a person has something serious going on while they are suffering while sending them home ignored is horrendous.
It’s kind of like pouring kerosine on a huge bonfire!
It adds more stress and lets a person know their suffering is really not important nor is their life or career nor the children or spouse they care for. Sound harsh? Well that’s the reality!
So, if you are a person that was dismissed and harmed and belittled on your way to lupus diagnosis or Hashimoto’s or one of the long list of similar diseases like I was, I completely understand your frustrations!
It’s painful emotionally. Not only is your body betraying you via antibodies turning against you and killing you instead of protecting you, humanity and sometimes family joins in.
In my journey to diagnosis I heard some of the most insulting things possible. Rabid wolves would be more pleasurable to be near than some of the humans I had to experience. I’m not over stating in any way when I say that.
In a referral letter to specialist from a really good doctor these are some of the symptoms that manifested and had doctor observation. Malar rash, hives, petiechia, palmar erythema, joint swelling, joint laxity, wrists, fingers, hips, fingers, , respiratory compromise.
This does not include my positive ANA, hair loss and definite lupus hair with those chunks sticking out of full length hair, weight loss, levido reticularis, serious sun sensitivity, migraines, sulpha allergy, exhaustion…
Then after being neglected for so long up until I found that excellent doctor that refused to ignore those things. I started gaining weight and losing even more hair , got thyroid nodules one large one small, with calcification, hurthle cell, follicular cells I was ignored and almost four years later diagnosed with Hashimoto’s. I was exhausted and sometimes lethargic unable to stay awake.
I was so undeniably sick.
I had many symptoms since I was a teenager, and in my twenties was more pronounced then in my late thirties I started having full out flares.
Doctors had the nerve to ignore me. Even when they saw the signs. I had such huge signs and couldn’t breathe with petechia, hives and many other signs and some had the nerve to ask me if I had psychological problems.
ER doctors completely disregarded me. Even when when I was admitted and had emergency surgery I was dismissed. Many GP’s were incompetent and also disregarded me.
But hey you’re right doctor douchebag! I need to stay away from stress and all those things will go away. And sure to the douchebag emergency doctors. You are right, these visible to you symptoms are because I might be emotionally unstable.
I do believe there is a warm and toasty place for “professionals like this after death.”
Speaking of stress if they were in those warm and toasty places I would probably have MUCH LESS STRESS!
Funny how that works. And oddly I would be able to be at my career full time. But of course to many of these types, we are to respect their career, but not them respect our desire to continue ours. At least that was my observation regarding my career and theirs was final answer as I lost mine.
I’m not the only one that has gone through this. So many people have to struggle to get an answer and proper treatment. How many have actually died during that while being ignored?
And throughout this, I had family members and my child’s father accuse me of horrendous things. I was told I was lazy, I was told I deserved it by my hatchery. She did the same thing to me as a baby when I was hospitalized much of my childhood.
My ex thought my exhaustion was because I did not love him. And I was accused of wanting someone else. I used to cry and explain I am sick I need help I am trying to just stay alive, I can’t stay awake. The list of other peoples insanity is LOOOONG!
Does any of this sound familiar to whomever is reading this? It’s a horrible ride isn’t it?
But here is the best thing I can share with you if this is a similar situation to yours…
Get rid of toxic people NOW!
You can’t eliminate stress as doctors suggest so easily, and doctors should know better. They are in an incredibly stressful job if they are good doctors. Then there are those online gurus ignoring facts stating things such as.. “People have stress in life just remove it and everything will be OK.”
Fine and dandy for those with minor things easily diagnosed and able to move on from.
You bet people have stress in their lives! BUT, there are As%#&s out there creating that stress. They are adding to that stress and then stepping back pointing a finger at you.
There is a good chance there are two of those categories of people doing that to you. People who do not know you from a hole in the ground and are completely unjustified in their all knowing answers to your life.
Or they are your family. Even more unjustifiable!
So yes I encourage you to eliminate stress by eliminating those types! It might seem scary to think of not having a certain relative in your life, but if they are abusive or not supportive of you leaving you for dead while demanding all of your attention and time… understand they are adding to your ill health.
They might even be one of the reasons you are sick! While they judge you and push you under the buss yet one more time and tell you how horrible you are because you are just trying to survive?
Ask yourself this… How long has it gone on on? Are they fair weather family since you can remember? Are they a family member that has been harmful to you for time immemorial? Were they harmful during your childhood intentionally? Did they drag others in to join into their toxic ways towards you?
The best thing I ever did in my life as hard as it may seem to live without, was to close doors on every single toxic family member and person from my life.
It is somewhat known that many autoimmune patients actually have families like this, or long term marriages that are highly toxic. Then if you add work stress your body can and will turn on itself. You are even higher on the list if you have the genes for these illnesses.
So yes, eliminate stress. Life happens but in reality you can’t just go live on some tropical island. And there is good chance that you have lost tons of money or entire careers, or everything on your journey so it’s probably impossible.
Eliminating stress is highly unlikely when professionals and family disregard you with serious and clear medical conditions whether diagnosed or not.
Those that tell you remove stress can then help you eliminate stress by removing themselves from your life, or giving you a bank full of cash to pay for your new lifestyle stress free!
And with that I am NOT telling you to eliminate stress. In this world it will always be there.
But look at your surroundings. If you are being abandoned emotionally, or continually harmed by family while trying to stay afloat and just survive, consider your well being.
Your physical, emotional, and spiritual well being are important. They all fit together and you deserve them.
If this type of family or situation seems like what you have? Please research narcissism. I am pretty sure for many of you it will fit your situations perfectly. Once you learn about them you can protect yourself from them.
And also continue to remove bad doctors that have long abandoned their oath. If you have a toxic doctor that is harming you and telling you to see a shrink because you are annoying them while you are in serious medical distress and you have labs and paperwork that proves it?
I am going the legal route against some doctors. I will share that in future posts. But I am serious when it comes to removing toxic people. It’s the best thing I did for me. You might find aside from regaining your health it’s the best thing you ever did too.